Filling in the wellbeing blanks with Yasemin Tanzirel from Your Own Map
We are all busy and are trying hard to fulfill big dreams and goals, manage our long to do lists and have a social life! The art of doing this without sacrificing our most important assets, our bodies and our health, is the challenge we are all faced with day to day. All of us, no matter who we are, have to keep working at it and can learn from each other – so each Wednesday we will chat to a passionate bright spark to hear about what they are up to and fill in their wellbeing blanks!
Today we are filling in the blanks with Yasemin Tanzirel from Your Own Map – an online resource created to inspire and empower teens to follow their passions and live a life they love. When Yas was in high school, she decided to follow a career path that was safe and would make her money instead of following her passions for the fine arts, dance and music – all to please her parents and look good at her high school reunion. She worked in the food industry – making a lot of money – but was miserable and unfulfilled. So she quit, travelled Europe and became a Zumba instructor in Berlin. Back home and having learnt from the journey, it’s her mission to empower teens to follow their passions with a courageous heart. Let’s hear what Yas has to say:
Something I’m really excited about at the moment is sharing Your Own Map with people I met, to discover they’re passionate about empowering teens as well and can see a real need for this in teens lives and in our education system. Also, meeting people in jobs they’re passionate about and chatting with them about their journey and also talking with those who are unsure and uncovering their passions with them.
I have 2 jobs. 1. Educator at lululemon. 2. Chief Inspiration Officer at Your Own Map.
Going to yoga, pilates and fitness classes is usually easy for me when it comes to managing my wellbeing.
Going to bed before midnight and preparing my lunches at home is usually hard for me when it comes to managing my wellbeing.
Doing lots of things with no down time (going to bed late, getting up early and rushing from place to place) always seem to throw my wellbeing off track.
Sitting in the sun with a hot cup of tea and just sitting and dreaming of what I want to do and create brings my wellbeing back on track.
I usually sleep 6-7 hours per night. I’d like to sleep 8-9 hours per night.
Something I’ve found that really helps when it comes to my health, fitness and wellbeing is taking the time to sit and dream. I spend a lot of time rushing from place to place and sitting on the couch or in the garden with a cup of tea in the sun gives me the space to refocus and bring calm into my mind and body. Also, lying in bed when I wake up and resisting the urge to check email/facebook/Instagram and instead lying there and creating what kind of day I want to have.
Something I’ve learnt over the years when it comes to health, fitness and wellbeing is everything is controlled by our mind and what we say to ourselves. There is a little voice that says ‘it’s too hard/I’m weak/you can’t do this’ – that small, demeaning, complaining, puts yourself and others down. Then on the other side there’s the voice that reminds you what you’re committed to. I hear the little voice in Body Pump class and it says to me: “you’re weak! Give up!”, I acknowledge it – “Thankyou for sharing! I know, I got it. I want to continue with my Pump class now, thankyou!” and carry on. I’m committed to is having a body that works and being a nimble, fun old lady one day!
The advice I would give to someone half my age when it comes to looking after their body is love what you got. All of it. Love it all. When I was 13 I really didn’t like my body. I blamed my Mediterranean background for my thick eyebrows, hairy arms and frizzy hair and wished I had straight hair and looked like the popular girls at school I compared myself to. I’d do crazy things like one night to straighten my hair, I tied it in a tight ponytail and kept adding hairties until I had a ponytail of hairties. Other times I’d straighten my hair with an iron (don’t try that at home! Burnt ear = very painful). I’d brush my curls out and straighten my hair and pluck my eyebrows all because I didn’t like what I had. I wished I was born into a different body and had a different genetic makeup.
After school I made a decision to start embracing what I had. I chose a new hairdresser that’s great with curls and started using different hair products for people with curly hair. People started complementing me on my hair, even stopping me in the middle of shopping centres to say “I love your hair! It is natural?! You’re so lucky!” What I discovered was that the frizzy hair I had in high school, was frizzy, because I’d brush it with disapproval. As soon as I started caring for what I have- just the way it is – love for myself and from others started showing up.
Walk proud and own who you are. It’s what makes you unique and beautiful.
The problem with being too obsessive and trying to be a perfectionist when it comes to your health and wellbeing is it is exhausting. It’s a contradiction to why you started in the first place – to love and nurture yourself. I’m definitely guilty of this. I’d love to exercise for an hour every day, eat a diet that’s 100% clean and have a body that looks like the front cover of a magazine. At the same time that pushing-pushing-pushing comes from a place of self-hate and disapproval of how I am right now. Instead when I focus on how I want to FEEL (which I discovered through reading Danielle La Porte’s The Desire Map) – which to me is wild, sexy, soulful, light and exotic – it creates a whole new set of actions to take, like going for a walk on the beach instead of rushing to drive to a gym class. In the end I feel GOOD, which is the whole point.
If my body stopped working my ability to do my work would be hindered. But I’m sure I’d find a way to carry on and inspire others.
If my body could talk right now the loudest thing that it would say / ask for is “Yas, I love you and you’re up to big things, but I really need you to take care of me. At night, let’s pop the phone down, close the lid of your laptop and spend an hour or so to rewind with a candle, journal and a cup of tea. I know there’s a lot you want to do and there’s only so much you can do. And it’s all perfect. Together, with a love for each other, we can do anything.”
Enjoyed reading? Feel free to forward on to a friend who you think would enjoy this too or could benefit from the great work that Yasemin is up to xx