Whenever you have a negative thought about your body chase it up and away with a positive one Sneak peak from 'If your body could talk' book
You and I both know it.
You think and say negative things about me.
And you’re not alone.
I have to admit it, sometimes I think negative things about you too.
Do I want you to stop thinking and saying negative things about me? Of course I do.
Is that realistic? I’m not so sure.
Think about other people in your life, like your partner, your family, your best friends, do you only ever think and say nice things about them? Be honest.
Especially when you spend a lot of time together, do you notice the small annoying thing, things that no one else would notice? I know you do.
Sometimes they get on your nerves, some things about them are not perfect, they are not the way you’d choose but that’s the way they are and you accept some negative things about those people that you love, because they come along with so many other positive things.
Does thinking or saying negative things about them make you a bad person? No way.
But you don’t only say negative things about them do you? For every negative thought there’s so many more positives and that’s why you love them and have them in your life. Think about it.
“He is so messy, but he is so loving and kind.”
“She is so reserved, but she is an amazing listener.”
“He is a bit crazy and unpredictable, but he is funny and so much fun.”
“She is high maintenance, but she is so supportive and strong.”
Think of me like one of your besties.
We, of course, spend a hell of a lot of time together, so you notice the small annoying things about me too, things no one else would notice.
I know sometimes I get on your nerves, some things about me aren’t perfect, aren’t the way you’d choose but that’s the way they are and you take those things because they come along with so many other positive things.
Does thinking or saying negative things about me make you a bad person? No way.
But the thing is usually you seem to only think and say negative things about me. Even though for every negative there are so many more positives about me. Think about it.
My legs may be big but they are so strong and they walk and run.
My mid section is wobbly to touch but is so amazing how it digests all the things you eat and drink and gives you energy.
My nose isn’t the shape you want it to be but it is so amazing how it breathes and gives us life.
I can’t run very fast but I am an amazing dancer.
I know there’s a lot of pressure on me and you to look a certain way and that you’re not going to wake up tomorrow and instantly be able to eliminate all negative thoughts about me. But maybe we don’t need to aim for that.
What if we just started with matching every negative thought or word with at least one positive? What if you thought about the things that you do love about me, that you appreciate me for, a little more often.
How would I feel?
How would you feel?
How would our relationship change?
There’s only one way to find out.
For every negative thing you think or say about me, follow it up with a positive.
For every moment of lament, follow it up with a moment of gratitude.
For every imperfection you find with me, search for something amazing about me.
I promise you, there are so many positive things about me.
Give yourself a chance to see them.
Give me a chance.
Your Body xx
This is an extract from Jacquie Sharples‘ book ‘If your body could talk‘, a collection of letters written from your body to you. Take the time to listen to your body and hear what it has been trying to tell you.
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