25 Promises to make before you turn 25 or 35 or 45 or 55...
Today we welcome a guest blog post from Christine Yangoyan, a member of the team at Promise or Pay. Promise or Pay is a fantastic new concept to help you stick to your promises or give money to charity! Check it out www.PromiseOrPay.com
Although these are 25 promises we could aim to make before we turn 25 I think they could also be made in our 30s, 40s, 50s and beyond! Let’s hear what Christine has to say:
“Your 20’s are your selfish years. It’s a decade to immerse yourself in every single thing possible. Be selfish with your time, and all the aspects of you. Tinker with shit, travel, explore, love a lot, love a little, and never touch the ground” – Kyoko Escamilla
Promises are easy to make but hard to keep. In reality it’s our actions that matter. One way to make good on your promises is to Promise or Pay and put your money where you mouth is. Get inspired, healthy and energised (and avoid a quarter-life crisis) with these 25 promises to make before you turn 25. One promise can make a huge difference – what will yours be?
1. Promise to travel the world
Travelling is something that you don’t understand until you’ve done it. It’s exhilarating; it makes for great stories and its life changing. It’s been said that “Jobs fill your pocket, adventures fill your soul” and travel is something that guaranteed brings you back a different person than you left. You see places you’ve never imagined and you end up looking at the world from a new perspective. It also makes for great character building if you go to the right places. Often you’ll find yourself lost and disorientated. You’ll have to learn new languages and embrace new cultures and bit by bit your eyes widen. Once you get a taste of the world you best be sure you’ll be left wanting more.
2. Promise to focus on exercising your brain
Education is incredibly important in this day and age. It allows us to make technological advancements, to contribute politically and to express our creativity. There are still many countries in the world where getting a good education (if at all) is incredibly difficult. Here in Australia and many other parts of the world we are granted the ability to continue our studies. This helps prepare us for satisfying careers and stimulates our brains. Learning is something that we never really stop doing, so while you can, study. Don’t forget the bonus! – unis often give their students long breaks within the year, and that’s a perfect opportunity to jet set and fulfil promise number one.
3. Promise to spend time with family
It’s been said many times and as we grow older we find more truth in this. Remember to spend time with your family no matter how hectic life gets. They are the ones that have seen you at your worst and still love you. Appreciate them.
4. Promise to value quality friendships
Through your 20’s you will meet many different types of people from all walks of life. When you travel, study or work you’ll meet even more. Often these are the friends that will last a lifetime. Value those friendships that are full of good vibes. If you’ve got a good bunch of mates, show them that you care. Even if it means setting aside an afternoon to grab a coffee with them, it’s the simple things.
5. Promise to get lost
Okay so I don’t mean literally! It’s been said that “Sometimes you find yourself in the middle of nowhere, and sometimes in the middle of nowhere, you find yourself”. Often in our 20’s we are still working out who we want to be, where we want to be and what we want to be doing. Take these years to allow yourself to get lost. Travel, make a career change, and meet some new people. Get lost within cultures and immerse yourself in new experiences.
6. Promise to test your adrenaline
If you’re looking for ideas, bungee jumping, sky diving or trying a new rollercoaster might get your heart racing!
7. Promise to get your health right
Health is a priority and although in our 20’s our bodies might be a little more resilient it doesn’t mean we shouldn’t take good care of them. Hopefully by now you know fad diets and detoxes probably don’t work. So get serious about it – make sure you engage in clean eating, visit your local doctor when something’s up and get that ass moving (at least 30mins everyday).
8. Promise to learn something new
You’ve probably heard this one many times before. Whether it’s a new language or a new sport – quit the procrastinating and go do it!
9. Promise to ditch that job you hate
Most people would tell you they have mediocre jobs. Life is full of mediocre things; don’t make your job one of them. Statistics say we spend more time with our work mates than with our own families so it’s important that we like them and that we love the nature of work we are engaging with. If you’re reading this and you hate that boss- quit. That simple. If you hate that job – study something new. That simple. You want to be waking up five days a week with some enthusiasm. Find a job that not only you love but that allows you to grow and move upwards. Please don’t get me wrong, all jobs start off with a little hard work and a boss we may not like. Put in the hard yards and make SMART decisions. Know the difference between a boss that challenges you and a boss that prevents your growth.
10. Promise to focus on positive relationships and get rid of dead end floozies
So often in your early 20’s relationships are a focus. They are also a disappointment. For both guys and girls, you learn lots about yourself and grow rapidly. Sometimes the person you were at 20 isn’t the same at 25. As we embark on our careers, travels or even fall in and out of love, we learn. We learn lots. This gives us something we call wisdom. I think I can safely say even at 80 I wouldn’t call myself ‘wise’. I think I’ll always be learning – but at least as each year passes we know more than the last. Or maybe for you it’s not about learning, but perspective. Maybe you see things a different way and appreciate things you didn’t previously. So in saying this, we grow, we change, we learn. If you are part of a great relationship, hang on. If not it’s time to move on. There’s plenty time for love and your early 20’s are often a roadblock with career changes, gap years and new demands, love can be difficult to attain whilst you’re learning more about who you are. Ride the wave, there’s time.
11. Promise to experience something new
Throw yourself out of your comfort zone and climb a mountain, take a day trip up the coast or jump on a cruise.
12. Promise to be present
With technology and the 21st century I’m sure most of us can say we are guilty of instagramming a moment while it’s happening. Although our urge to share moments with the rest of the world is appealing, try being present. In the here and the now. Breathe it in, taste it, feel it, see it through your own eyes not your iphone screen lens. This is arguably one of the hardest things to master for our generation, but it shouldn’t be. Now I’m not trying to say ditch social media altogether (although that may do you some good) My point is that you can still filter that picture or update that status but in moderation and maybe later?
P.S The best experiences have no cell reception anyway.
13. Promise to meditate
If you don’t know how to do this, get in contact with someone who does! Master it and you’ll see yourself a more peaceful person.
14. Promise to give credit where credit is due
If you witness an individual doing good for society, making good changes in their life or just doing a damn good job at what they do, make sure you praise them. We are always hearing about what people do wrong but all too often we forget to praise those in their moments of achievement.
15. Promise to smile at a stranger
This is one of the simplest promises you can make but believe me it’s one of the best and you feel the results instantly. Science says we release endorphins smiling and 9/10 times you best be sure you’ll catch one back!
16. Promise to celebrate
The vibes we get on New Year’s Eve in Sydney harbour are electric but they shouldn’t stop there. You should pump that magic in your veins everyday or at least when there is something to celebrate. Like a new job, a strong relationship or making it through a difficult time. Your spirit should always be dancing with excitement for the future.
17. Promise to work on a project you’ve always dreamt of
Whatever this is, go and do it. Set yourself a plan on how you’ll achieve it. Be realistic and set some goals to work towards. You might surprise yourself.
18. Promise to spend time focusing on your career
Your 20’s are a fab opportunity to start building connections and networking to set yourself up for a future that leads you in the right direction. If you’re not sure what you want to be doing, it’s also a perfect time to undertake a few internships and try out a couple of different career choices.
19. Promise to thank your mother
Mothers are indescribable and we so often take their role in life for granted. This ad campaign completely moved me to tears and truly puts our mother’s importance into perspective. There are also plenty of families where dad is mum too. The same applies for them. Thanking all the mum’s out there!
20. Promise to get cultured
Don’t just travel the world and take pictures through an iphone screen. Breathe in the culture of another country, learn their language, immerse yourself in their cuisines, and live how they do. You may even find yourself homesick – don’t panic. You’re probably learning something new then too.
21. Promise to take opportunities presented
“It’s a terrible thing. I think, in life to wait until you’re ready. I have this feeling now that actually no one is ever ready to do anything. There is almost no such thing as ready. There is only now. And you may as well do it now. Generally speaking now is as good a time than any”.
All too often we don’t take those opportunities because we’re too young, we’re not experienced enough, we don’t have enough money, we are tied down in a relationship and above everything else – we aren’t ready.
Take opportunities! If they work out, it will be wonderful and if they don’t it’s experience. Some of the greatest stories begun with people taking an opportunity presented. And hey let’s face it if you’re being offered an opportunity someone see’s potential in you, don’t let that go to waste!
22. Promise to think big picture
“Never get so busy making a living that you forget to make a life”
Although in your 20s, some of you may be very much career orientated, it’s also important to ground yourself and remember to create a life. This is your life and it’s happening right now. Make start with promise number 4!
23. Promise to be grateful
If you’re reading this post you probably have access to the internet, and you probably know how to read and my guess is you probably have an interest in helping others or bettering yourself. So based off these assumptions you’re in a pretty good position compare to a vast majority of the world. Be grateful and practice this through words of gratitude every day.
24. Promise to take control of your finances
“Whenever I start feeling spontaneous my bank account quietly reminds me to calm the fuck down”
If you’re resonating with this – this promise is for you! In your 20’s you like to travel, you like to party and you like to splurge. Often at this age we don’t have full incomes to accommodate this lifestyle. It’s so important to promise to set aside a small amount from each pay check towards bigger things like saving for a car to get you around or a house to start a family in. Although these things may not be at the forefront of your mind and frankly may scare the shit out of you, they are still real and things you will eventually have to deal with. Get a head start and practice the art of saving.
25. Promise to remember that the sky’s the limit
Twenty something is the beginning of the rest of your life! Life has proven that so many of us have done what others may perceive as the impossible.
“It had long since come to my attention that people of accomplishment rarely sat back and let things happen to them. They went out and happened to things” – Leonardo da Vinci
So go and make things happen! Make those promises. Even if you only take one promise from this list I guarantee your life will change in a positive way. Oh and if you’re a little wiser than 25 – not to worry. These promises don’t have an expiry date.
Christine Yangoyan recently completed a Bachelor of Communications (Public Relations) at the University of Technology and is passionate about Public Relations and Marketing. She loves learning, thinking outside the box and engaging in work that is challenging and meaningful. She is using her skills to help Promise or Pay execute new ideas and create inspiring content that contributes to the common good. Feel free to contact her at firstname.lastname@example.org